Evolve MTT

Grant with son Alkar

The emotions that we felt when our son Alkar died was extraordinarily intense. At first there was shock, but as that wore off the enormity of the situation dawned on us. To say goodbye to your own child is certainly something that neither of us were prepared for.

Grief does seem to have a natural unfolding if we are able to be with each emotion as it arises. But being with our feelings can be very challenging at the best of times, let alone in extreme situations. However from my personal experience, it seems that emotions can flow through us when we accept them. They hang around us when we don’t.

In that respect, Grant probably was better able at being with his emotions and accepting them then what I was able to do. I resisted alot, and I resisted the situation alot. After a while I could see that resisting wouldn’t bring him back. The day that it really hit me at an emotional level that nothing could bring him back was definitely the worst day of my life. It was also my birthday. One I won’t forget.

So now having used Meridian Tapping Techniques for myself whilst grieving I see the tool in a different light. I used to think MTT tapped away the emotions. What I realise now is that MTT relaxes us sufficiently that we are able to actually experience the feelings and then let them go. They only stay within us if we won’t let them complete their natural cycle. Sometimes people are reluctant to use MTT for grief because it might take away their sense of loss. I didn’t find that to be the case, it just enabled me to keep moving through the natural grief process and not to get stuck. I still miss him very much, and we will always hold him in our hearts.

Julie