Evolve MTT

At the Life Made Much Easier website, there are multiple programs available to assist you in different aspects of your life.

We are currently creating a program to help those who have experienced a stillbirth. In 2008 our baby boy died during birth, and we experienced the greatest loss we had ever known.

As the days and months passed by, Grant and I dealt with the numerous aspects of grief that arose. Whilst Grant and I had different responses at different times after his death, we both found Meridian Tapping Techniques to be very helpful in easing the way for us both. We did a variety of things to help us come to terms with our son’s departure, including MTT, and we feel that all of this has helped us to keep moving forward whilst remembering our beautiful boy.

We wish to share our insights, and in particular, share valuable ways that you can use MTT throughout the course of the program. It is an interactive program where you will experience immediate benefits by following us along in the tapping sessions.

Having had our own stillbirth, as well as now having met many other parents of stillborns, we are very aware of the breadth and depth of issues that arise that are specific to the loss of a baby late in pregnancy. The trauma, the emotions, the internal questions, dealing with responses from others, the strain on relationships, the dark thougts that can arise, and the fears and doubts of facing the future.

We will keep you posted as to the release of this valuable program.

Julie

Grant with son Alkar

The emotions that we felt when our son Alkar died was extraordinarily intense. At first there was shock, but as that wore off the enormity of the situation dawned on us. To say goodbye to your own child is certainly something that neither of us were prepared for.

Grief does seem to have a natural unfolding if we are able to be with each emotion as it arises. But being with our feelings can be very challenging at the best of times, let alone in extreme situations. However from my personal experience, it seems that emotions can flow through us when we accept them. They hang around us when we don’t.

In that respect, Grant probably was better able at being with his emotions and accepting them then what I was able to do. I resisted alot, and I resisted the situation alot. After a while I could see that resisting wouldn’t bring him back. The day that it really hit me at an emotional level that nothing could bring him back was definitely the worst day of my life. It was also my birthday. One I won’t forget.

So now having used Meridian Tapping Techniques for myself whilst grieving I see the tool in a different light. I used to think MTT tapped away the emotions. What I realise now is that MTT relaxes us sufficiently that we are able to actually experience the feelings and then let them go. They only stay within us if we won’t let them complete their natural cycle. Sometimes people are reluctant to use MTT for grief because it might take away their sense of loss. I didn’t find that to be the case, it just enabled me to keep moving through the natural grief process and not to get stuck. I still miss him very much, and we will always hold him in our hearts.

Julie

When our baby boy died, there were so many levels of emotion and feelings that were hard to describe to someone else. One healing way for me to express myself and release some emotion was through writing a poem. You don’t need to be a brilliant poetry writer to do it, just start by putting pen to paper and see what comes out. Below is one of the poems I wrote about the abruptness of losing a son at birth. As you read the poem, you can use MTT if you feel any emotions come up. Hearing of someone else’s loss can remind us of our own losses, so it is an opportune time to use MTT to help us release unresolved feelings and allow us to feel our love for them more strongly.

Ticket to Nowhere

What joy I felt – the journey’s begun
The train gently leaves the station
I hold hands with my true love
We’ve made the right decision

I felt quite fortunate on our trip
The ride was smooth and safe
The scenery was so beautiful
I knew this was our fate

The sun shone bright, the flowers bloomed
The air smelt sweet and fresh
Not much longer now my love
This year would be our best

I’d heard the next part of the path
Could be intense and surreal
Traveling up the mountain edge
Would take lots of courage to feel

With lots of grunt, we slowly climbed
Climbed our way to the top
My heart sung with joy, my body trembled
As I wondered why we’d stopped

The conductor said “It’s time to leave”
I said, “Beg your pardon”
“This ticket takes us all the way,
To a place called Parent Town.”

“No”, she said, “That’s not the case,
You should read the fine print.
It’s time for you to leave the train.
I’m sorry, it’s the end of your stint.”

“My friends are waiting for me there”, I yelled
As I was shoved out of the carriage door
I fell to my knees, my head jarred
The train moved off with a roar

The sky was dark, the air was cold
The rain pelted down on my skin
I had no idea where I was
A new journey would begin

A warm embrace from my man
Shielding me from the weather
I turned my head and there he was
Our boy asleep forever

My cry echoed far and wide
Into the darkest night
There must be some mistake my God
This cannot be our plight

Deathly silence in response
No waking from this dream
“Who am I in this place?”
Nothing is as it seems

On we walked, chilled to the core
Each step seemed like a journey
Fog set in on this strange place
Leaving no certainty

No one could give directions
Only warm clothes to wear
To help survive the frosty winter
And not fill with despair

The task ahead was impossible
Alas, no turning back
The time had come to say goodbye
I could hear my heart crack

We wave farewell to our dear boy
Our precious little son
Thank you for choosing us, my love
Darling Alkar, radiant one

Julie Horsfall 2008